For all of my anxious readers out there, I thought this chart might help you understand how worrying functions and does not help us versus how problem-solving not only has immediate positive effects but can also have longer-term benefits. Worrying is problem-centered with your thinking zeroed-in on what went wrong rather than on a solution. When you begin to be problem-solving focused, you are thinking about those things over which you have some control. Look at the differences in the chart … [Read more...]
Is there such a thing as a Good Divorce?
December 2, 2025 By
For many of us we think of negative words when we think about divorce – either our own or those of our friends. Words like conflict, pain, heartbreak, sadness and loss. Many find that a divorce is the end of a dream for the future, one where we see ourselves growing old with our spouse, surrounded by grown children. Today, however, not all divorces have to be horrible and destructive. A larger than ever number of couples are discovering that it is possible to enter the divorce process … [Read more...]
Why is a Cosmetics Company Involved in Mental Health?
November 3, 2025 By
Why is a Cosmetics Company Involved in Mental Health? The first words I read in the full-page ad in the New York Times on October 10th were “Be Brave. Have The Talk. Help A Friend.” The ad offered a free 10-minute training so that you would know how to talk to a friend who you thought might be struggling with depression or anxiety. I asked myself why Maybelline New York was sponsoring this training? I knew the statistics were worrisome. 50% of young adults suffer from depression or … [Read more...]
Two Kinds of Stress
September 15, 2025 By
I was sitting at my desk getting ready to finalize the curriculum for a class that I teach when I was informed via email that the books I needed for my medical residents had not arrived. Not only had they not arrived, they had not been ordered! I thought the top of my head would explode. I could teach the first two lectures, maybe the first four, but after that, the next two or three segments of the curriculum were blown. I wasn’t just stressed; I was in distress. Distress is negative … [Read more...]
How Do You Know If Your Psychologist is a Good Therapist?
July 15, 2025 By
In April, I wrote a blog about the courage it can take to start therapy. After over 25 years as a psychologist, I have discovered that most people noodle around with a problem for a few months before they finally call for a psychotherapy appointment. Some get it right the first time, while others are not sure that they and their therapist are a good fit. So I thought I would give you some guidelines to help you figure out if you are with the right person to help you solve your problems and … [Read more...]